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Families: The love that binds

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Living the Scriptures 

with St. Paul University 
Catholic Center 

Fr. John R. Auby 

As we reflect on the readings for the Feast of the Holy Family, we may find ourselves thinking about our own families.

We might even find ourselves feeling some guilt or disappointment. Our own families - those from our past, as well as those we have now - haven't lived up to the kind of holiness that we hear about in the readings and that we ourselves have hoped for.

And yet, we have feelings of joy and gratitude because we know that even with shortcomings, there is a great deal of goodness in our families. We see evidence of and experience kindness, respect, and obedience in our daily lives.

Feast of the
Holy Family
(Dec. 26, 2004)
Sir 3:2-6, 12-14
Ps 128:1-2, 3, 4-5
Col 3:12-21 or 3:12-17
Mt 2:13-15, 19-23

The challenge for us might be: What might we do with our feelings of guilt or disappointment to make our families happier and more holy? As we come to the end of this year, all of us can take some time to look into our hearts, to see ways in which we have not lived up to God's call for us to be holy.

When have we failed to show compassion and understanding in our relationships with others? When have we failed to be kind, and more humble?

We can ask for forgiveness and make amends. We can make a commitment to allow God to change our lives in this new year.

It is never too late for a parent to apologize to a child for times when they have been unreasonable. It is never too late for any of us to tell the truth about something, that we lied about, and that may have hurt someone else.

Some of us, as parents, husbands or wives, or as children, have a hard time sharing our feelings, but this is an opportunity to tell those special people how much we really do love them.

We can look at any grievances that we have and try to forgive, as God forgives. It is easy for us to love those who are loveable. The challenge is to love the difficult people in our lives: a parent we feel failed to love us in the way we needed them to; a child whose behavior hurts others; a spouse who doesn't seem to be as committed to the relationship as they once were; or a friend who has betrayed us in some way.

We are challenged to: "Bear with one another." To bear something or someone means to endure. It may mean that we might have to suffer a little, and that isn't easy. To bear also means to give birth, as Mary bore the child Jesus in her womb.

As we bear with the difficult people in our lives, those not easy to love, we actually begin to give birth to them, as the kind of people God created them to be. In the process, we become more like the kind of people God created us to be. There is great joy in that.

To live as God has called us to live binds families together with the gift of love. We look to the Holy Family, not as an exact model for how our families should be, but as a point of reference, as we all continue on our own journeys to God.

The Holy Family probably spent time, just as we do, reflecting on their life as a family, on their relationships, and they too probably struggled at times to be faithful.

We come together to celebrate the Eucharist, as a community of families. We share the gifts that God has given us and in communion, we live as one people in God.

Reflection questions

• Reflect on your most precious family moments: the birth of a child, a wedding, or holiday. Is it the event itself or the togetherness you value most?

• Does family mean togetherness, just as church means community?

When we realize and acknowledge that we are all related and belong to the same human family, we will make choices to help us live as God created us to live - loving and respecting one another, those in our own families and those in our human family.

When we gather at the table of the Lord, we bring our struggles, our hopes, our differences, but in the end, we find common nourishment in Christ.


Fr. John R. Auby is pastor of St. William Parish in Janesville. He is an alumnus of the UW-Madison.

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Faith Alive!

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In a Nutshell

  • The road of life is a sometimes maddening jumble of unanticipated twists and turns that can happen at any age.

  • Human life is about change. At each new stage in life, people face new questions and challenges, and experience fresh insights.

  • The Gospel message is that wherever we are on the human journey, in whatever circumstances, Jesus is right there with us.


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  •  Food for Thought
     
    Life keeps changing for us, and sometimes we don't like the changes. But sometimes we do.

    Some changes more or less "happen" to us. We get older; our children do too. Our interests shift, and abilities we didn't know we had come into view. Our physical or financial or emotional health experiences ups and downs, unsettling our sense of well-being.

    Some changes are planned for and are happy developments. When planned-for changes work out, we celebrate. But when unsettling changes occur in our lives, we may be tempted to regard ourselves as victims.

    Every change, it seems to me, can be viewed by us in more than one way. To negotiate big transitions wisely, we have to take care how we interpret them. I suspect that wise people don't interpret the big things in life in knee-jerk fashion.

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    As Adult Life Changes, What Stays the Same?
    By Christopher Carstens

    Catholic News Service

    Peter said to Jesus: "Lord, it is good for us to be here. If you wish, I will put up three shelters -- one for you, one for Moses and one for Elijah" (Matthew 17:4).

    Poor Peter got it wrong again. Standing on the Mount of Transfiguration, the brash young apostle asked, "Why not just stay forever?"

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    Getting Our Attention
    By Daniel S. Mulhall

    Catholic News Service

    Stop me if you've heard this one before: A man (or woman) survives a brush with death (or some other eye-opening event), sees the event as an act of God and vows to dedicate his life to God by serving the poor. It is a lovely story about a "wakeup call" and one that does happen.

    My friend Father George Bowling, now deceased, a priest of the Archdiocese of Louisville, Ky., once told me how his life changed when he was a young priest serving at St. Augustine Parish in Louisville in the mid-1950s. (St. Augustine's is one of the oldest parishes formed by and for black Catholics in the United States.) His wakeup call came from seeing how his parishioners were battered by racism and bigotry. He decided to commit his life to serving those in need.

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    New Stages of Adult Life, New Questions
    By Scott J. Rutan

    Catholic News Service

    Each stage of adult life brings unique challenges -- and graces. Each stage is an opportunity to encounter yet another "side" of God.

    We humans are communal creatures. When we experience the typical hardships and joys that are part and parcel of the many stages of adult life, our communities experience them too.

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     Faith in the Marketplace
     
    This Week's Discussion Point:

    What stage of new life -- one that began with a child's birth, middle age, retirement -- required the greatest reflection/preparation on your part? Why?

     
      Selected Response From Readers:  
     
    Copyright © 2004 Catholic News Service/U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops



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    This week's readings

    Week of Dec. 26, 2004 - Jan. 1, 2005

    Sunday, Dec. 26, 2004
    Feast of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary,
    and Joseph

    Reading I: Sir 3:2-6, 12-14
    Reading II: Col 3:12-21 or 3:12-17
    Gospel: Mt 2:13-15, 19-23

    Monday, Dec. 27, 2004
    Reading I: 1 Jn 1:1-4
    Gospel: Jn 20:1a and 2-8

    Tuesday, Dec. 28, 2004
    Reading I: 1 Jn 1:5--2:2
    Gospel: Mt 2:13-18

    Wednesday, Dec. 29, 2004
    Reading I: 1 Jn 2:3-11
    Gospel: Lk 2:22-35

    Thursday, Dec. 30, 2004
    Reading I: 1 Jn 2:12-17
    Gospel: Lk 2:36-40

    Friday, Dec. 31, 2004
    Reading I: 1 Jn 2:18-21
    Gospel: Jn 1:1-18

    Saturday, Jan. 1, 2005
    Solemnity of the Blessed Virgin Mary,
    the Mother of God

    Reading I: Numbers 6:22-27
    Reading II: Galatians 4:4-7
    Gospel: Luke 2:16-21


    Pope's Prayer Intentions

    December General Intention

    Each child a precious gift of God: That children may be considered as precious gifts of God and may be given due respect, understanding, and love.

    December Mission Intention

    The Incarnation of Jesus Christ and the inculturation of the Gospel: That Jesus Christ's Incarnation may be the model of genuine inculturation of the Gospel.



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