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The gifts of family

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Living the Scriptures 

with St. Paul University 
Catholic Center 

Trisha Day 

Today's second reading, which speaks so eloquently of each person's role in building the body of Christ, has a great deal of relevance for families. Just as the body is made up of interrelated parts, each of which is important, the same can be said of families.

But we live in a culture that does little to help us recognize that each person - from the youngest child to the oldest elder - has something unique and important to contribute to the well-being of our families. The relentless pace with which we hurl ourselves and our children through life leaves little time for taking delight in the things we cherish about one another.

Third Sunday
in Ordinary Time
(Jan. 25, 2004)
Neh 8:2-4a, 5-6, 8-10
Ps 19:8, 9, 10, 15
1 Cor 12:4-11
Lk 1:1-4; 4:14-21

As adults, we play multiple family roles. Some of us are sons and daughters ourselves at the same time that we are parents to our own children. We may be spouses while we are also siblings. We may be grandparents.

With each relationship comes responsibilities that can be burdensome and time-consuming. Sometimes we are so busy focusing on what we are doing for the others in our families that we lose sight of what they are doing for us.

This is when it's helpful to remember St. Paul's words: "The eye cannot say to the hand, 'I do not need you,' nor again the head to the feet, 'I do not need you.'"

Similarly, we must not forget that we need the gifts each person brings to our families. It is the combination of these gifts - the talents, abilities, and characteristics of each individual member -that gives a family its identity and strengthens the bonds that keep it intact.

Too often we fail to recognize these gifts. Instead we dwell on things that upset us about individual family members. We complain about behaviors we wish they would change or we grow resentful when they fail to live up to our expectations. We are quick to notice and criticize what we don't like, rather than recognizing and affirming the things we value and love.

Reflection questions

• What is it about your children, your spouse, your parents, siblings, or grandchildren that enriches your life?

• How can you pay closer attention to what you love and cherish about the people who give the word "family" its meaning?

Failing to appreciate another's gifts implies they aren't important. It's like the eye saying to the foot, "I do not need you," and that's not the kind of message we ought to be sending to the people we love.

Instead, we would do well to reflect on today's second reading in light of the diversity of gifts the people in our families bring with them. Take some time today to think about the variety of relationships you have with the people in your family - from the youngest to the oldest. Otherwise, chances are you'll be too busy to even notice.


Trisha Day has recently retired from the University of Wisconsin-Cooperative Extension Service. A member of the Associates of the Iowa Cistercians, she is involved with New Melleray and Our Lady of the Mississippi Abbeys near Dubuque, Iowa and has led retreats and written articles about how to apply monastic values and practices to life outside the monastery.

St. Paul's Web site is www.stpaulscc.org


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Faith Alive

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In a Nutshell

  • To see marriage as a vocation is to imagine God opening a road before couples. Their journey becomes "the story of us" -- "us and God," defining who they are as a couple.

  • A couple's path toward holiness can be "messy" and often is recognizable only in retrospect.

  • Many simple, daily disciplines in marriage and family are steps along the path to holiness.


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  •  Food for Thought
     
    In the church's lexicon, "vocation" refers to a call -- a call from God. Is marriage a vocation?

    Talking a few years ago about the meaning of "vocation," Father Timothy Radcliffe, then master general of the Dominicans, said that "every human being discovers his or her identity in answering" God's call "to share the divine life."

    But do people discover their identity through marriage?

    I'm sure that individuals who don't already know who they are bring their fair share of difficulties to marriage. But I'm pretty sure that even people with a strong sense of identity can find out who they really are in marriage.

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    Marriage, the Vocation
    By H. Richard McCord Jr.

    Catholic News Service

    Every year, on the Sunday closest to Valentine's Day, parishes and dioceses hold celebrations to honor married couples and emphasize the value of marriage. This is often an occasion to recognize couples who have reached milestone wedding anniversaries and to search for that one couple who has been married longest -- usually more than 60 years. This couple customarily is asked to pass on some wisdom about married life.

    The stories these couples tell differ in the details, but commitment is always at the heart of their relationship. They didn't just stay together, they remained committed in their promise. They even grew more committed over the years. In a sense, they came to be committed to the very idea of marital commitment.

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    What the Marriage Path to Holiness Looks Like
    By Mary Jo Pedersen

    Catholic News Service

    I used to think that when people got married, they gave up the idea of being holy like the saints. That was before I stood on the altar with the man I loved and said before God and everybody: "I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health until death. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life."

    With this promise as my new roadmap, I began to see pathways to holiness I'd never seen before.

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    How Husbands and Wives Find Time for Each Other
    By Jean Sweeney

    Catholic News Service

    The couples who come to our parish counseling office -- mostly in crisis -- have chosen to spend time and money on their relationship. I'm not worried about them. The ones I worry about are the ones who are spread too thin and don't even recognize that they have a problem.

    I asked some couples from our parish's marriage ministry and moms ministry what happens when they don't attend to their relationship and what they do to help their marriage thrive.

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     Faith in the Marketplace
     
    This Week's Discussion Point:

    How do busy couples find the time they need for each other?

     
      Selected Response From Readers:  
     
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    This week's readings

    Week of January 25 - 31, 2004

    Sunday, January 25, 2004
    Reading I: Neh 8:2-4a, 5-6, 8-10
    Reading II: 1 Cor 12:4-11
    Gospel: Lk 1:1-4; 4:14-21

    Monday, January 26, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Tm 1:1-8
    Gospel: Mk 3:22-30

    Tuesday, January 27, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Sm 6:12b-15, 17-19
    Gospel: Mk 3:31-35

    Wednesday, January 28, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Sm 7:4-17
    Gospel: Mk 4:1-20

    Thursday, January 29, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Sm 7:18-19, 24-29
    Gospel: Mk 4:21-25

    Friday, January 30, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Sm 11:1-4a, 5-10a, 13-17
    Gospel: Mk 4:26-34

    Saturday, January 31, 2004
    Reading I: 2 Sm 12:1-7a, 10-17
    Gospel: Mk 4:35-41


    Pope's Prayer Intentions

    January General Intention

    "You are the salt of the earth and the light of the world": That Christian communities, in this particular moment of our history, may welcome ever more completely the Lord's invitation to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world (cf. Mt 5:13-14).

    January Mission Intention

    The Christian communities of China: That the Christian communities of China, docile to the Word of God, may strengthen their ties and cooperate more effectively in spreading the Good News.




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