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Married life is better with NFP, says couple at synod Print E-mail
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Written by Cindy Wooden, Catholic News Service   
Thursday, Oct. 16, 2014 -- 12:00 AM
Jeff and Alice Heinzen, Synod on Family 2014
Archbishop Joseph E. Kurtz of Louisville, Ky., president of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, talks with Jeff and Alice Heinzen of Menomonie, Wis., as they leave the morning session of the extraordinary Synod of Bishops on the family at the Vatican October 13. The couple are auditors at the synod. (CNS photo/Paul Haring)

VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- Catholic couples who ignore Church teaching on contraception "don't know what they are missing," said a U.S. couple invited to address the extraordinary Synod of Bishops on the family.

Alice and Jeff Heinzen, family life leaders in the Diocese of La Crosse, spoke at the synod October 7, urging efforts to find new ways to share its teaching about the beauty of family life.

Natural Family Planning

Although the couple has practiced Natural Family Planning (NFP) for 27 years and taught NFP -- Alice is a member of the NFP advisory board for the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops -- they did not speak specifically about family planning in their presentation to the synod.

 

However, in an interview with Catholic News Service, the couple said Church teaching about married sexuality, openness to life, and against the use of artificial contraception is clearly a place where new ways of presenting the message are needed.

 

The good news, they said, is that Natural Family Planning is good for a marriage, good for one’s health, and good for the environment.

"Natural Family Planning is really a skill set that allows you to maintain your vow of openness to life," Alice said. “When you look at other things, like being faithful to one another, if you're going to be faithful you better have the skill of conflict resolution so that you can work things out. If you’re going to stay permanently married forever, well then you better be able to forgive one another. That's another skill set."

Becomes part of lifestyle

Once it became "part of our lifestyle, then it was pretty amazing because it led to a mastery for myself of my own human sexuality," Jeff said, "and for Alice, it really ended up bringing a higher level of trust because I think that for so long women have been taught to be the gatekeepers and men to be the demanders. And it completely changed everything."

NFP courses in the United States are attracting more and more people interested in the methods simply because they are natural, not for religious reasons, Alice said. "However, after they start practicing and charting and discussing, they notice a shift in their relationship, they notice a deepening of their conversation."

When that happens, she said, instructors can point out: "This is God's plan. When you allow him into this whole process, how can you not expect more joy, how can you not expect things to be better between you?"

Alice said their friends and even their three children noticed how it affected their relationship, keeping it fresh and vibrant.

If a couple can speak openly about their fertility and talk about when or when not to have sex, Jeff said, "well, the checkbook looks pretty easy, and the finances aren’t such a big deal."

The Church is teaching truth, Jeff said, but sometimes it does not "package" it to sell. "It's a consistent product; all we have to do is figure out how we are going to deliver this to the population, especially to our young adults today."

Commenting on the synod discussions, including differing views on how the Church should respond to those who do not follow Church teaching on marriage and family life, both of the Heinzens said they are encouraged by the attention the Church is giving to the issues.

"This is a new age; this is a new way of addressing the crises that are identified" in the synod working document, Alice said. "We're discussing them, we're wrestling with them -- that is hope."

Jeff said he is impressed that Pope Francis "has cleared his calendar to be in this room every day. Cleared his calendar. Not, 'Well, I can be here on Monday, and then I can make an appointment on Tuesday afternoon.' No, he's here all the time."

 
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